In Which We Wave Goodbye To The American Dream


Eighteen and newly married, I dove head first into a life filled up with anticipation for the fulfillment of long awaited dreams. This simple country girl who grew up down a long, winding dirt road on hundreds of acres of undeveloped land had spent her entire girlhood imagining a brand new future filled to the brim with all of the things that most young girl’s dream of –  You know, the great marriage, secure jobs with nice incomes, new cars, a spacious house with a fenced in back yard for the kids to play; all held within a neatly manicured, comfortable middle class neighborhood just on the edge of town- these were the things of this young American girl’s dreams.

There isn’t necessarily anything wrong with these kinds of dreams; most of us have them right?

And then something happened – I got all that. 

“So, now what?”

That’s the question I’ve found myself asking a lot lately.

It has become clear to me for some time now that no amount of stuff can substitute for a life fully and freely lived. And so it is that the pursuit of a dream rooted in material gain sounds way more fun in theory.

The truth is, most Americans spend their lives chasing comfortable when comfort wasn’t at all what we were designed for. 

At least, I wasn’t.

It has taken me some growing up before I could come to my own conclusion about this..among many other things.

What I’m realizing is, I am not the same girl as I was twelve years…or even just three years ago for that matter.

These days, I find myself staring into the face of my own American dream life and thinking, “Am I the only one who feels like all of this is madness? Am I really the only in which none of this brings fulfillment?” 


Last week I mentioned in a previous post that our family would be taking a brand new journey. One that will no longer include a life marked by earthly possessions.

Our little family is currently in the process of selling everything we own (except our vehicles, bare necessities and kids) to head out on a new adventure leaving behind the comfort and safety of everything we’ve known. One in which we will not be tied down by mortgages & debt, nor will we be defined net worth or even a permanent mailing address for that matter. Our success will no longer be defined by what we own, but by how we live. Honestly, something about that is just so freeing.

And I have to be honest again and admit that this whole thing sort of feels like jumping off a cliff without being able to watch others before us try it out first to see that we WILL land safely.

And maybe it would seem more responsible or even sound more spiritual if we could say we are making this decision because ,“God spoke to us and told us to” or because we are going to a foreign country to save souls. But, that isn’t the case.

All we know is, we want to be free to spend more of our lives actually doing life with each other rather than just working for a paycheck. There is a rat race – and we want out.

And I just can’t shake this lingering question in the back of my heart that says, “But what if there’s more?”

What if, just what if  – at the end of slavery to this normal American way of life, a new sort of freedom awaits?

Have you ever wondered if there’s more to life than the typical American way of life? I’d love it if you’d share!

*There will be much more to share with you about our new journey! We invite you to follow along with us right here and join the conversation by clicking on the “leave a reply” link at the top!

About Rachel Rowell

A true southern gal at heart, Rachel was raised and lives in the deep south and spends her days raising her own babies, writing, making music, reading out on the front porch, and cooking supper for her family to sit around the table and enjoy together at nights! Her ultimate girlhood dream was to raise a family in a house just like "Anne of Green Gables" and now she is living her dream and inspiring others along the way.

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2 Responses to In Which We Wave Goodbye To The American Dream

  1. Jane McArdle September 19, 2013 at 5:35 pm #

    yes i have wondered for years if there was more and well we were more forced into this than it being a choice but when God closes one door He opens another and all we have to do is walk through with the confidence that He will provide.

  2. ca September 5, 2016 at 1:01 am #

    You’re very fortunate that you have the ability to make that choice. Good for you & your family. Make the most of it & may God bless you all. This is going to be a great experience…I would do the same thing if I could. 💖

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